Attachment Theory and Its Role in Connected Recovery™ (Part 2)

Attachment Theory applies beyond childhood, shaping adult relationships, especially romantic ones. As Gabbay and Lafontaine (2017) explore, attachment patterns shift from parent-child relationships to romantic partnerships as individuals move into adulthood. However, the fundamental need for connection, support, and security remains the same. In secure romantic relationships, partners demonstrate empathy and emotional attunement, while those with

insecure attachment may exhibit hypervigilance, manipulation, or emotional avoidance.

While Gabbay and Lafontaine focused on intimate partner violence (IPV), their research suggests a connection between insecure attachment and unhealthy relationship behaviors. In the context of infidelity and betrayal, these behaviors often emerge as attempts to meet unmet attachment needs. The Connected Recovery™ model helps individuals recognize these patterns and develop healthier ways of connecting and advocating for their needs.

The Role of Attachment in Long-Term Healing

Hazan and Shaver (1987) were pioneers in applying Attachment Theory to adult romantic relationships. They found that attachment styles formed in childhood often persist into adulthood, impacting emotional regulation and relationship expectations. Securely attached individuals are more likely to experience positive, trusting relationships, while insecurely attached individuals may struggle with trust and self-esteem.

Further studies, such as those by Bradford et al. (2017), indicate that attachment patterns can change over time, especially through positive relational experiences. The Connected Recovery™ model leverages these findings by providing tools that foster secure attachment and rebuild trust after relational trauma.

Ultimately, Attachment Theory offers a framework for understanding how early experiences shape adult relationships. The Connected Recovery™ model integrates this understanding into its approach, offering individuals and couples the opportunity to heal attachment wounds and build healthier, more secure relationships.