Attachment Theory and Its Role in Connected Recovery™ (Part 1)

Attachment Theory, developed by John Bowlby (1982), serves as the foundation for the Connected Recovery™ model. This theory focuses on the critical role that connection, reliability,and stability play in shaping relationships throughout life. Bowlby emphasized that human beings are biologically driven to form attachments, starting in infancy when a child depends on their caregiver for survival. These early experiences create an internal model of attachment that

influences how individuals connect with others throughout their lives.

Bowlby identified three main attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Secure attachment develops when caregivers consistently meet the needs of the infant. Anxious attachment occurs when the child is uncertain whether their caregiver will meet their needs. Avoidant attachment develops when a caregiver consistently fails to provide the necessary support, leading the child to believe they must rely on themselves. Although these attachment styles are formed in childhood, they continue to impact relationships across the lifespan,

especially in romantic partnerships.

The Connected Recovery™ model addresses these attachment wounds, particularly those caused by relational betrayals such as infidelity. It helps individuals heal by focusing on attachment-based dynamics, offering tools to rebuild trust, stability, and connection in their relationships.

The Impact of Attachment on Mental Health

Attachment insecurity can have a profound effect on mental health, as highlighted by Schröder et al. (2019). They found that insecure attachment significantly influences emotional regulation and relationship dynamics, often leading to mental health issues like depression and anxiety. Trauma and trust breaches, such as betrayal in relationships, exacerbate attachment

insecurities.

These findings support the need for therapy models that address not only relational trauma but also the attachment wounds that contribute to emotional distress. By helping individuals understand and heal their attachment wounds, the *Connected Recovery™* model offers a path toward emotional and relational well-being.